Today, September 4 is the day sexual health. But What is sexual health? According the Pan American Health Organization (PAHO) is "the integration of somatic, emotional, intellectual and social aspects of sexual being in ways that are positively enriching and that enhance personality, communication, love."
The purpose of this day is to encourage open and respectful discussion about human sexuality in order to promote sexual health and sexual rights of all people.
are many facets of the treatment of this theme could write for the prevention of unwanted pregnancies , sexual abuse, trafficking or sex as well seen from the enjoyment, and interaction with the other ... but this time I chose to talk about children.
The family is the main institution for girls and children know and learn about sexuality and gender. It is important to put aside the taboos and prejudices, so that the little ones learn early to control their lives and their relationships with others, as well as care for their own sexual abuse.
Building trust to encourage them to ask one of the keys. For answers the psychologist Laura Collavini advised in a post your blog : "Answering that question and only what asked in a clear and concrete. Do not avoid the subject. Tell the functionality of each body in a concrete and easily. Always with the aim of procreation. Give seriousness and respect. You can ask questions in stages. Avoid lies as the stork, cabbage, Paris, etc. Including in the encounter between two people who love and care. Do not expose them to pictures, sex scenes or conversations that fail to develop. " We
based on some questions: What children know about sex? we talk with them at home or who know what they know through the media, school or what they can discuss other children? In this regard it should be account the current spectacle of the body and relationships with other . On television can be seen a level of disinhibition and exposure of the body and sex that was once unthinkable.
usually in childhood from the doubts of body functioning, differences between women and men. They want to know to understand. The Guide site
child enumerated some of the frequently asked questions, and also suggested possible answers:
- Why am I different from my sister?: "After two years, and some cases even before the children notice their differences by seeking to know their own bodies. In this case, it is best to tell a child that is different from a child and that he does not care because all men are different from women. For a young child this answer is enough. "
- Where did I?: "This is a question that often make children from four years of age. Children know that fruits come from the market, the cookies come from the supermarket, and toy stores, and they want to know where they came. In this case, limit to say that he came from the parents. "
- Why do children pee foot and girls sit?: "It's like asking why children change the diaper pants and girls panties. There is much to explain. Explain the concept of difference. Boys and girls are different physically and also differ in how they dress. The girls wear clothing, and children are more pants, among other things. "
- How I left in his belly?: "Depending on the age of the child, the answer must be given in a more or less clear. If the child is very young, stick to say that he left the belly and nothing else. But if that child does not feel satisfied and note that you can understand why it is a bit more, say that he came out of the three holes that women have. One is to leave the poop, the other to urinate, and the other to leave the baby. With that, surely, the child will feel satisfied and not ask anything more. "
the close kept this piece he wrote Collavini, which for me can be a starting point for addressing the topic "Limiting the genital sexuality is to categorize it. It in a place of vulgarity or pornography. What is sexuality? Sexuality does not contain only leisure activities and performance dependent genital tract, but a whole series of activities and excitement existing from childhood, which produce a treat not to be reduced to the satisfaction of basic physiological needs (breathing, hunger, excretory function, etc.) and also found as components of a normal call of sexual love. "
